From a young age, many of us were taught that being “like a girl” was the worst thing we could be. Some of us were beaten, shamed, or bullied for crossing those invisible lines. So it’s no surprise that, later in life, we might overcompensate—going out of our way to perform masculinity, and then expecting it from others. This shows up in: Shaming femme men, Only dating men who are “straight-acting, Feeling shame around being a bottom, Cock size , Compulsive gym goals

The truth is, a lot of Queer people have experienced sexual abuse in childhood. Not because Queerness causes abuse (it absolutely doesn’t), but because abusers often pick up on kids who feel different, scared, or unsure of themselves — and they take advantage of that.

"Can you help me not be Gay?" "Is there a medication that can make me straight?" "What therapy will fix me?" "I don't want to be like this!" These are real questions I've been asked by South Asian Queer individuals. The desperation in their words is palpable, stemming from a society that deems their existence unacceptable.​

Much of our understanding of addiction stems from outdated and overly simplistic experiments. In the early 20th century, researchers placed rats in isolated cages with two options: plain water or water laced with heroin or cocaine. Time and again, the rats chose the drugged water until they overdosed and died. This became “proof” that drugs are inherently addictive.

There’s something I want to talk about today that comes up a lot in therapy, especially with LGBTQIA+ people: the thin, slippery line between self-improvement and insecurity. We’re constantly told we should be working on ourselves—losing weight, gaining muscle, fixing our skin, staying youthful, becoming "better." But better for who? For ourselves? Or for others to want us?

Addiction is more than just excessive drinking, drug use, or compulsive behaviours—it’s a pattern that disrupts life, relationships, and well-being. Whether it’s alcohol, drugs, gambling, shopping, pornography, or chemsex, addiction can take many forms, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community, where factors like stigma, discrimination, and trauma often contribute to higher rates of dependency.

Being a Queer ally is not about labels or good intentions alone — it’s about action, accountability, and ongoing learning. This blog offers a clear, compassionate guide to allyship, exploring how power, privilege, and silence can cause harm, even unintentionally. It invites allies to move beyond performative support and towards listening, self-reflection, and meaningful solidarity that genuinely supports Queer lives.

Receiving an ADHD diagnosis can bring relief, confusion, grief, or validation — often all at once. This blog explores ADHD through a neurodiversity-affirming lens, examining how stigma, misdiagnosis, and social expectations impact Queer and marginalised people. It centres understanding, self-compassion, and reframing difference as diversity, while offering insight into navigating diagnosis, identity, and support without shame.