Hasan Kilani, Queer Palestinian activist, writer and consultant on Queer Palestinian Joy and Queer Joy more generally

Understanding Your Feelings When You’re Autistic There’s this quiet assumption in the world that you should just know how you feel. Someone asks, “How did that make you feel?” and you’re expected to have an answer ready. Not just an answer, but the right one. Clear, simple, emotionally precise.

There’s a particular narrative that quietly circulates in some parts of the gay male community. It doesn’t always show up loudly or aggressively. More often, it appears in passing comments, in distancing, in discomfort.