Low self-esteem almost always stems from trauma. Sometimes that trauma is obvious and unmistakable. Abuse. Assault. Bullying. Accidents. Violence. Racism. Homophobia. Transphobia. Growing up in unsafe or unpredictable environments. And sometimes it’s quieter. So quiet it often gets dismissed or minimised. And sometimes it’s quieter. So quiet it often gets dismissed or minimised. Being compared unfavourably to siblings.

Because we’ve seen what happens when people are denied Queer affirming therapy. The misdiagnoses. The shame. The years wasted in therapy…

Public displays of affection are often framed as harmless or universal, yet for many LGBTQ+ people they can trigger fear, discomfort, or hypervigilance. This blog explores how safety, shame, trauma, and social conditioning shape our relationship with PDA, challenging the assumption that visibility always equals freedom. It invites a more compassionate understanding of why discomfort around public intimacy is not a personal failure but a response to lived experience.

Bisexuality is often misunderstood through rigid ideas of behaviour, attraction, and legitimacy. This blog explores how narrow cultural and Queer frameworks limit our understanding of bisexual identity, forcing people into boxes that don’t reflect lived experience. It challenges myths around “choice,” consistency, and performance, and invites a more expansive, compassionate way of understanding bisexuality beyond binaries and expectations.