Low self-esteem almost always stems from trauma. Sometimes that trauma is obvious and unmistakable. Abuse. Assault. Bullying. Accidents. Violence. Racism. Homophobia. Transphobia. Growing up in unsafe or unpredictable environments. And sometimes it’s quieter. So quiet it often gets dismissed or minimised. And sometimes it’s quieter. So quiet it often gets dismissed or minimised. Being compared unfavourably to siblings.

Finding the right therapist can be transformative for LGBTQ+ people navigating identity, trauma, and mental health. This blog explores the power of therapist matching, highlighting how shared understanding, cultural awareness, and Queer-affirming practice can create safer, more effective therapeutic relationships. It challenges one-size-fits-all therapy models and shows how feeling seen, understood, and respected can support authenticity, healing, and long-term wellbeing.