Where does my shame actually live? Not in theory. Not in identity. But in the small, everyday choices I make, the things I reach for, the patterns I repeat, the life I’m building. Because shame doesn’t always arrive loudly. More often, it’s quiet. Subtle. Almost invisible.

Therapy should be a space of safety, validation, and growth, especially for LGBTQ+ people. Yet, many LGBTQ+ clients still find themselves in rooms where their identities are misunderstood or pathologised. To support queer people effectively, we must radically rethink psychotherapy. Decolonising psychotherapy isn’t just about using the right words—it’s about shifting how we view gender, sexuality, shame, safety, and healing.