Low self-esteem almost always stems from trauma. Sometimes that trauma is obvious and unmistakable. Abuse. Assault. Bullying. Accidents. Violence. Racism. Homophobia. Transphobia. Growing up in unsafe or unpredictable environments. And sometimes it’s quieter. So quiet it often gets dismissed or minimised. And sometimes it’s quieter. So quiet it often gets dismissed or minimised. Being compared unfavourably to siblings.

Therapy should be a space of safety, validation, and growth, especially for LGBTQ+ people. Yet, many LGBTQ+ clients still find themselves in rooms where their identities are misunderstood or pathologised. To support queer people effectively, we must radically rethink psychotherapy. Decolonising psychotherapy isn’t just about using the right words—it’s about shifting how we view gender, sexuality, shame, safety, and healing.